1/23/2018 0 Comments Patti Stanger Online Dating Tips![]() Had enough bad dates and disappointing relationships? Let WEtv's Million Dollar Matchmaker® show you how to attract the man you desire, make him love you passionately and stay with you forever. Take the First step, in the right direction! Become an 'Insider' for Patti's newest dating tips she's never told anyone. Jul 5, 2016 - 1 min - Uploaded by New York Daily NewsPatti Stanger the 'Million Dollar Matchmaker' gives her top five online dating tips. 'Okay, how tall are you?' She asked me in a rather accusatory manner. 'Five foot three,' I responded. Related: 'Okay so short is 5'8', 5'10'. Tom Cruise is short. Would you date Tom Cruise if he were Jewish? Yes, you would!,' she said, without giving me a chance to answer. (I would not date Tom Cruise if he were Jewish, but I see her point.) 'You're 27, you don't know shit about dating. Your number one job is you need to stop judging.' Another thing I needed to do? 'Put my dick away.' Patti tells me I give off too much 'masculine energy.' I like to be in control, do all the planning (making the dinner reservations included), and anticipate what's next rather than let someone surprise me. She tells me I 'lead with my resume' and say things about what I do rather than about who I am. True, true, true. But is that such a bad thing? I've worked hard to be where I am. Of course, Patti has a solution. She directs me to a website,, where for $49, you get over three hours of Patti-approved virtual life coaching to help you find love. So instead of my weekly mani/pedi/10-minute chair message, I listened to lectures from Patti, hypnotherapist Steve G. Jones, and The Secret's Dr. Related: I listened to powerful 20-minute lectures from these experts about how to fix the problems within yourself that are causing you to make bad decisions as well as tips on how you can more actively make good ones. I also, with a healthy dose of skepticism, listened to a series of subliminal recordings purported to be embedded with 'powerful suggestions that will reprogram your subconscious.' All I heard was music. I learned that there are three main reasons people typically don't find love: • Anxiety: Will I ever meet anyone? • Guilt and blame: It's my fault he broke up with me/I feel awful I broke up with him. • Confusion: What am I looking for? For me, the first two definitely apply. As per the experts' advice, I take an inventory of my past relationships to see the patterns that emerge. In each and every one I find myself putting my heart on the line most when I know it will get broken. The past three relationships that I can call 'real' were with men that told me in one way or another they weren't ready for anything serious. I, 'showing my dick,' talk a lot about my job early on—how busy I am! How intense my responsibilities are! I don't even have time for a serious relationship! Of course, the truth is, a serious relationship is the thing I wanted the most. How could I blame them for backing out when I hadn't entered into it honestly myself? The most important thing I learn is that no matter how painful the past may be, it's essential that we change the story of it in our head—that we forgive, apologize, and love. This is a recurring theme throughout the 'Attracting a Soulmate' suite of recordings, and one that I've found extremely helpful. This isn't to say that you excuse all the awful things a person once did (another big mantra throughout the audio series is: People can change things about themselves, but not who they are at their core), but it does mean that you can learn to take the pain out of the story. And while my most recent wound still feels a bit fresh to be totally forgiven and forgotten, I'm grateful to have actionable steps to work towards feeling less awful about it.
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